The origin of this work is family therapy.

Systemic (Family) Constellation was first developed by the German psychotherapist, Bert Hellinger in the late 1980s and has continued to evolve and has been used successfully to resolve deep issues not resolved through conventional reductionistic psychotherapy.

Bert Hellinger calls the attitude in practising true Systemic & Family Constellation “an attitude to life” and he believes if everyone in the world did just one Constellation, there would be world peace. In fact he was nominated for Nobel Prize for Peace.

The principles in Systemic (Family) Constellation have nothing to do with morals, but they have emerged from what has shown up again and again in many constellation processes facilitated.

For example, exclusion of family members in the family (e.g.“black sheep” in the family, divorce, given away for adoption, unacknowledged abortion, miscarriages, suicides, etc) may cause an imbalance and a misplaced identification by someone in the family system whether they have met or not, and sometimes generations later. We call the phenomenon entanglement.

Another cause of entanglement* on the intuitive and transgenerational level can be that of victim and perpetrator – on the personal even national level. The observations from thousands of constellations seem to confirm the laws of “karma” as well, without the determinism.

(We do not use the word “entanglement” in a way that implies it’s a “mistake”. It is neutral. Another name is “hidden patterns” – and they exist to continue the system, holding the parts on it together. The conflicts between the needs of different levels of conscience create these “patterns”.)

Renowned Cambridge educated Biologist Dr Rupert Sheldrake’s morphic field theory that explains the flock behaviours such as that of fish and birds and across animals can explain how family constellation works. This is a short explanation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JydjryhEl5o

Dr Rupert Sheldrake’s extensive work postulates how information and experience appear to be transferable outside of time and space. In Systemic (Family) Constellation, the shared memory of systems is also referred to as the “Knowing Field”. In this quantum space, layers and layers of information exist and whether we are aware or not, a part of us exists in this space and interacts with it all the time.

German origin Dr. Dietrich Klinghardt M.D., PhD, who is renowned for treating difficult health cases (patients who “have tried everything”) places Family Constellation accounting of 50% the root cause. (The 5 levels of Healing approach he practises underlies Eastern medicine such as Tibetan, Chinese, Ayurvedic medicine and yogic tradition of healing which are all SYSTEMIC.) This recording explains how he would for example treat autistic children not just addressing heavy metal and EMF stresses but also by Family Constellation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2EB4m9-DCw)

Our 6-dimensional body approach is similar to Dr Klingdhart’s approach.

Just as physical symptoms in our body call our attention to look at the root causes and to restore balance, challenges in our family/organisation/society system can call our attention to look at what might be out of balance until balance is restored.

This is why people who go through the Systemic (Family) Constellation with openness can experience profound shifts in many areas in their lives that they may not even have expected. Unexplained blockages dissolve, destructive behaviours such as addiction, suicidal thoughts, etc change; more clarity emerges, as one dissolve the deeper causes for their challenges.

Some concrete examples include long lost family member reached out to connect “from nowhere”, long time stuck situations in business resolved naturally, serious illness healed against all odds…

Those who have experienced Systemic (Family) Constellation often find the experiential process fascinating, profound or profoundly touching, and the insights they gain from the experience surprising and spot on.

Systemic (Family) Constellation is an experiential and somatic process.

For group workshop. it takes place in a group with about 10 (or can be more) participants sitting in a circle. The process begins where the client, after presenting their issue, invite the participants to represent members of his/her family or system (and they can accept or decline). The client then places intuitively each chosen person inside the circle. After everyone is placed, the client takes a seat and observes. The representatives begin to feel like the people or elements they are representing and providing information that otherwise is inaccessible. The facilitator may also invite representatives and decide together with the client what elements to be represented. 

The facilitator would guide the client to witness what emerges. Specific resolution sentences may be used. Words are sometimes optional. The connection and shift takes place from seeing. 

An effective Constellation facilitator is compassionate, intuitive and neutral. Their role is to “hold space” for what shows up and guides the client to acknowledge what is asking to be acknowledged from the bigger system. Constellation work is positively life-changing when facilitated with neutrality and humility.

For everyone who participates, they exercise their subtle intuitive senses. Being a representative is a somatic experience. You learn to go inward, sense and feel  what comes through. This is what we do everyday anyway, but in the workshop, this is done consciously. 

Representatives are chosen intuitively for having similar “resonance” with what they represent and the facilitated processes often touch them on a deeper level as well, giving them relevant and powerful insights.

Systemic (Family) Constellation can also be performed in private one-on-one session, or be incorporated in coaching and healing (which we also offer).

Anyone who has been a Systemic (Family) Constellation representative will tell you that as they step into their place in the Constellation and just trust “the field”, they start to sense movement and urges that are not their own, while they are fully conscious. Whatever that asks for completion and resolution is information in “the field”. 

To be able to tap into the morphogenic field or the Knowing Field is our innate ability, it’s similar to the ability to sense someone is staring at us from our back, or the telepathic experience of thinking about calling someone and they call. Pet owners are often amazed how their pets seem to know they are coming home long before they are physically at the door. Dr Sheldrake’s works explains these phenomena and more.

Through the experiential exercises in the workshop, you will learn fascinating ways in tapping into the “information field” and become more in touch with your “intuition”. You do not need to be a “case-giver”. Everyone will experience those exercises. The exercises are designed with specific theme.

Furthermore, if you become a representative in someone’s case, you will also have first hand experience in developing your perception that is beyond the five senses. 

With practice, you will develop stronger perception and confidence in your “intuition” that you can apply in everyday decision making. 

You will also learn to develop your “systemic perception” – it is like trying on a new lens. You will expand your perception and approach your life differently that will very likely bring you more peace.

We apply this work in coaching, in solving personal issues, in helping business and non-profit organisations to resolving underlying issues such as succession, trauma and transformation. We also use it to test market response, in guiding best decisions, in periodic “organisational health check”. 

Constellation is being successfully applied in looking into root causes of health challenges and in bringing about life-changing healing as well. 

For entrepreneurs and business owners, it has been found their connection to their family of origin and hidden entanglements to the systems they belong to (such as cultural roots and society) can have profound impact on their success and fulfillment, and we have been applying this work in leadership development. 

Our founder and resident systemic work and constellation facilitator applies the “systemic” attitude towards her coaching and healing work, with or without “constellating”.

Her style of family and systemic constellation is free of melodrama or superstition; and is in line with latest development in the work and is more transformation focused. 

She also often integrates other techniques that improve the effectiveness of the work, including techniques from somatic psychology, NLP, hypnosis etc. 

Anita has been trained globally with systemic work and family constellation masters operating in a wide spectrum of working styles. Anita discovered her intuitive gifts and a systemic thinking that was perhaps “too early” in her early life, for which she learnt to turn inward, and developed an early interest to philosophy and psychology. However it was after working 10+ years in fashion that she finally underwent her career/life transformation following her life purpose in wellness and personal development. Anita started coaching and health consulting professionally in 2005 and founded i-Detox in 2008 which preceded iLiving. Her specialty and passion is in supporting change and transformation, and her approach is inevitably integrative, bringing together the many tools in her tool box that support evolution.  

Our workshop space is carefully shielded from external electro-magnetic radiation with special EMF shielding curtain from Germany. We also enhance internally with Bioresonance Rayonex Duplex IV biofield forming device that amplifies beneficial frequencies that neutralise the negative effects of electro-magnetic fields generated as an inevitable part of office operation and any possible geopathic stresses. Our space is designed to be conducive to meditative and healing work.